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You made a decision most men never make. Not just to pay for something — but to stop performing and start building. That decision is rare. The men in this room made the same one.
This page is your operating manual for the next season of work. It has everything you need — how the calls work, what to do between them, how the buddy system functions, and the full six-month pillar curriculum with weekly assignments and scripture anchors.
Read it. Use it. Come to the calls prepared to be honest. The work you do here will show up in your marriage, with your kids, in your faith, and in the way you lead. By small and simple things are great things brought to pass. Start here.
How The Rare Ones works.
Every element of this group is designed to keep the work alive between calls — not just during them. The weekly call is the anchor. The buddy system is the accountability. The assignments are where the work actually happens. All three together is what makes the difference.
Every week. 60 minutes. Teaching, breakout rooms, and a commitment you make before you leave. Jeff leads. You show up prepared to be honest.
Paired with 1-2 other men. Every week you send each other five honest answers. Your buddy reads them. He asks about them. This is the accountability that makes the difference.
One specific action each week in one of five arenas — your marriage, your kids, your faith, your work, your healing. Small. Specific. Something you actually do.
One pillar per month. Each month goes deeper into the pillar than the website content — specific exercises, challenges, and applications for your life right now.
Before every call you receive one question: "Has something shifted?" Your honest answer becomes what you bring to the room. Come prepared to share something real.
The men in this room are doing the same work. You become who you are around. Show up. Be honest. The energy of this room is the most powerful thing about it.
The 60-minute call format.
Every call follows the same structure so you know what to expect and can prepare. The consistency is intentional — when the format is predictable the content can go deep.
0:05
Jeff opens with the scripture anchor for the current pillar month. One verse. Brief reflection on how it connects to the week's teaching. Sets the spiritual tone for the call.
0:10
Every man gives one word that describes where he is right now. No explanation. No context. Just the word. This primes honesty from the first minute and tells Jeff what the room needs.
0:25
Jeff brings 15 minutes of focused teaching from inside the current pillar. Not a general overview — one specific concept, one specific application. This is the content you came for. Take notes.
0:40
Groups of 2-3 men. One question from the teaching to work through together. 12 minutes. Be honest. Say the thing you almost didn't say. That's the one that matters.
0:55
Each breakout group shares one thing that came up. Jeff facilitates — reflects, challenges, goes deeper. This is where the room teaches itself. Listen as much as you speak.
1:00
Every man states one specific action he will take before next week's call. Not a goal. An action. Then Jeff closes with a brief word — scripture, challenge, or prayer. Same every week.
The buddy system — how it works.
You are paired with 1-2 other men in the group. Every week — before the call — you send your buddy your five answers. He sends you his. You read each other's answers. You ask about them on the call or in a direct message. This is not optional. This is the accountability that makes the difference between a man who talks about change and a man who actually changes.
Buddy groups are 2-3 men. If your group is three, all three answers go to all three. The more eyes on your week, the harder it is to hide. That's the point.
How to send your answers: Text or email them to your buddy every week before the call. Keep it simple — copy the five questions, write your answers, send it. No formatting needed. Just honesty.
"Am I doing the work — daily, privately, without anyone watching?"
Faith · Private Foundation"How am I intentionally growing closer to my wife this week — and what specifically did I do?"
Marriage"How am I showing up for my kids — am I present with them, or just near them?"
Kids"How am I seeing my work differently — am I building with purpose or grinding from fear?"
Work · Calling"Am I healing — am I seeing my future as bright and full of possibilities, or am I still letting the past run me?"
Healing · ImaginationOne pillar per month.
One arc.
Each month the group goes deep into one pillar — deeper than the website content, into specific exercises, weekly assignments, and real application. After six months the cycle begins again, but you are not the same man. The second time through lands differently.
"My grace is sufficient for thee: for my strength is made perfect in weakness."
2 Corinthians 12:9"I give unto men weakness that they may be humble; and my grace is sufficient for all men that humble themselves before me."
Ether 12:27 — Book of MormonThis month is about identification. A man cannot interrupt a pattern he cannot name. The goal of Month 1 is for every man in the group to be able to clearly name his false power move — the specific behavior his brain reaches for when he feels out of control — and begin to see it without shame. Naming is not defeat. Naming is the beginning of freedom.
"What do you reach for when you feel out of control? Name it specifically — not stress, not anxiety. The behavior. What is it?"
"When in your life do you first remember feeling powerless? What did you do with that feeling?"
"What is the cost of your false power move — to your wife, your kids, your own sense of who you are?"
"What would it look like to surrender this pattern to God — not manage it, not fight it, but actually let go of it?"
"He that is faithful in that which is least is faithful also in much."
Luke 16:10"No power or influence can or ought to be maintained by virtue of the priesthood, only by persuasion, by long-suffering, by gentleness and meekness, and by love unfeigned."
D&C 121:41 — Doctrine and CovenantsMonth 2 draws the line between public and private accountability. Most high-achieving men are outstanding at public accountability — they deliver, they show up, they keep their word to others. This month builds the private foundation that most men have never built: what you do when no one is watching, what you put in your mind first, how you show up to yourself before you show up to anyone else.
"Describe your first 30 minutes of the day — not what you want it to look like. What actually happens?"
"Where is the gap widest between who you are in public and who you are in private?"
"What is one private discipline — small and specific — that if you did it daily for 90 days, would change you?"
"What would the man you want to become do in his first hour of the day? Describe it specifically."
"Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths."
Proverbs 3:5-6"Feast upon the words of Christ; for behold, the words of Christ will tell you all things what ye should do."
2 Nephi 32:3 — Book of MormonMonth 3 addresses the sequence most driven men get backwards. We decide, build, grind, succeed — then ask God to bless what we've already done. Co-creation inverts that. Foundation first. Then bring the plan honestly. Then watch for quiet doors. This month every man identifies one area where he is building alone and takes one step toward building with God instead.
"Where in your life are you currently forcing a door? What would it look like to stop forcing it?"
"Describe a time when God opened a door you weren't forcing. What did that feel like compared to the doors you forced?"
"What is one decision you are currently making without bringing it honestly to God first?"
"What would it mean to truly let go of the outcome in one area of your life — to act faithfully and release the result?"
"For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the Lord, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end."
Jeremiah 29:11"By small and simple things are great things brought to pass; and small means in many instances doth confound the wise."
Alma 37:6 — Book of MormonPurpose doesn't need to be invented. In almost every man it is already there — buried under urgency, obligation, and the accumulated weight of a life built trying to prove he was enough. Month 4 is an excavation project. The coaching task is not to create a purpose statement. It is to remove what is covering the one already there.
"If income were removed as a measure of success — what else would tell you this year mattered?"
"What do you want your children to say at your funeral — not about what you built, but about who you were?"
"What were you doing the last time you felt fully alive — not successful, but alive? What does that tell you?"
"Write one sentence that describes your purpose — not what you do, but what you are for. Share it with the group."
"For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you."
Matthew 6:14"Yea, and as often as my people repent will I forgive them their trespasses against me."
Mosiah 26:30 — Book of MormonMonth 5 is the most personal month. Forgiveness has three dimensions most men only understand one of: forgiving others, forgiving yourself, and receiving God's forgiveness. This month moves through all three — not to force anything, but to name what is still being carried and begin the process of setting it down. Every other pillar can only reach as high as your forgiveness ceiling allows.
"Is there someone whose name still brings heat, distance, or heaviness when it comes to mind? You don't have to name them here. Just acknowledge — is the weight there?"
"What chapter of your own life do you find hardest to forgive yourself for? What does carrying that chapter cost you?"
"Have you actually received God's forgiveness — or are you still, somewhere, trying to earn it? What's the difference in how those two things feel?"
"What would be different in your marriage, your parenting, or your faith if you set down the heaviest thing you are currently carrying?"
"Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen."
Hebrews 11:1"And Christ hath said: If ye will have faith in me ye shall have power to do whatsoever thing is expedient in me."
Moroni 7:33 — Book of MormonMonth 6 is about what you build toward now that the work of the first five months has cleared the way. Imagination is not wishful thinking — it is a faculty, like a muscle, that atrophies under anxiety and pressure. This month every man reclaims a specific vision for his marriage, his family, his faith, and his work. The ceiling is gone. The question is: what do you see?
"When did you stop letting yourself imagine something better? What was happening in your life when imagination got quiet?"
"Describe your marriage as it could be — not as it is. Be specific. What does that version look like in a single scene?"
"What does your legacy look like when it is fully alive — not just what you built, but the man you became and the men you helped become?"
"Six months ago you started this work. What is different? Name one specific thing that has shifted — not hoped for, but actually changed."
Anchor scriptures
by pillar.
These are the primary scriptures that anchor each pillar month. Use them to open calls, anchor your personal study, and as touchstones when the work gets hard. Both Bible and Book of Mormon are included — they speak to the same truths from different angles.
"My grace is sufficient for thee: for my strength is made perfect in weakness."
2 Corinthians 12:9"I give unto men weakness that they may be humble; and my grace is sufficient for all men that humble themselves before me."
Ether 12:27 — Book of Mormon"He that is faithful in that which is least is faithful also in much."
Luke 16:10"No power or influence can or ought to be maintained… only by persuasion, by long-suffering, by gentleness and meekness, and by love unfeigned."
D&C 121:41 — Doctrine and Covenants"Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding."
Proverbs 3:5"Feast upon the words of Christ; for behold, the words of Christ will tell you all things what ye should do."
2 Nephi 32:3 — Book of Mormon"For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the Lord, thoughts of peace, and not of evil."
Jeremiah 29:11"By small and simple things are great things brought to pass."
Alma 37:6 — Book of Mormon"For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you."
Matthew 6:14"Yea, and as often as my people repent will I forgive them their trespasses against me."
Mosiah 26:30 — Book of Mormon"Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen."
Hebrews 11:1"If ye will have faith in me ye shall have power to do whatsoever thing is expedient in me."
Moroni 7:33 — Book of MormonThe commitment you
make to yourself.
This is not a form for Jeff. This is for you. Write it, save it, revisit it. The man who names what he is building toward and writes it down becomes a different man than the one who just thinks about it.
Take five minutes with this. Don't write what sounds good. Write what is actually true — what you actually want, what you are actually willing to do, what actually needs to change. This is the foundation of your work in The Rare Ones.