I don't advertise this. I don't pitch it. Most of the men I work with one-on-one came through The Rare Ones or a retreat — men I already knew were serious, honest, and ready to do the real work.
If you're reading this page, something brought you here. That's worth paying attention to. But I want to be honest with you before you go any further: I take very few of these engagements. Not because of time — because of fit. The men I work with one-on-one are the ones where I can see, clearly, that the work will move.
Most coaching programs sell you a system. A framework. A set of tools you apply to your life and see what happens. That's not what this is.
When I work with a man one-on-one, I am working with the specific texture of his specific life. His marriage — not marriages in general. His relationship with his kids — not parenting principles. The patterns he has been running since he was seven years old. The ceiling above him that he may not even know is there. The door he keeps forcing that won't open.
This requires a man who is willing to go all the way in. Not halfway. Not "I'll try it and see." All the way in — willing to be challenged on the stories he has been telling himself, willing to have his blind spots named, willing to do the work privately whether anyone is watching or not.
If that's you — I want to hear from you. If you're not sure yet — start with The Rare Ones or a retreat. The men who get the most out of 1-on-1 coaching are the ones who have already done some of the foundational work.
I keep it simple. Weekly calls, honest work, and the space to go wherever the work needs to go. No rigid curriculum. No predetermined agenda. Just a man and a guide, doing the real work together.
One hour. Every week. You and Jeff — no group, no agenda imposed from outside. We go where the work needs to go. Some calls are about a specific situation. Some go into territory you didn't expect. That's usually the most important territory.
Life doesn't wait for the weekly call. When something comes up — a decision, a moment with your wife or kids, a pattern you just named — you can reach out. I'm not a 24-hour hotline, but I am present.
Every call ends with something specific to do before the next one. Not homework — work. Something real to practice, observe, or act on in your marriage, your parenting, your faith, or your inner life.
What happens in this working relationship stays here. The men I work with need to know they can say the thing they haven't said anywhere else. That safety is non-negotiable.
The minimum commitment is three months. Real change doesn't happen in a single call or even a single month. Three months is long enough for patterns to surface, work to begin, and real shifts to occur. Most men continue beyond three months.
"I have worked with men who changed everything — their marriages, their relationship with their kids, the way they lead, the way they carry themselves. And I have worked with men who stayed exactly where they were, despite the investment, because they weren't ready to let the work actually land."
"The difference was never intelligence or success or even willingness in the abstract. The difference was whether they were willing to be honest. With me. With themselves. About the actual things — not the things that were safe to bring."
"I take very few men into this kind of work. When I do, I give everything I have to it. I ask that they do the same. If you're reading this and something is moving in you — reach out. Not to buy something. Just to have an honest conversation about whether this is the right next step."
Payment plans are available. If the investment is the only thing standing between you and this work, reach out — let's have that conversation honestly.
If something on this page resonated — don't overthink it. Fill out the short application and Jeff will read it personally. There's no sales call waiting on the other side. Just an honest conversation about whether this is the right fit.
If it's not the right time yet — start with The Rare Ones or the Los Barriles retreat. The men who get the most out of 1-on-1 work are the ones who have already done some of the foundational work.
Submit an ApplicationJeff reads every application personally.
Not every application leads to a working relationship — and that's okay.